She wants a Divorce!
You look down your life, it all passes in front of your eyes like it was just yesterday. At 18 you were married to a man chosen by your dad and the elders. You were in love with someone else but he didn’t feel the same about you. You knew it but didn’t just care. You felt you had enough love for both of you but without a choice you were thrust into marriage.
Although the groom was from your town
you barely knew him because he lived in the city. You dreaded your wedding day.
You asked yourself how you could pretend in front of God and your friends but
armed with the hope of a better life, you went through the charade. In the
beginning you did everything to make your husband miserable. You fought with him
at the least provocation because this marriage to you was a prison
sentence.
But he genuinely loved you the first
day he set his eyes on you. He vowed to make you happy at all cost. He worked so
hard to provide you with everything you needed. He cooked and cleaned for you
because of love. He wanted to do everything possible so you would come to love
him as much as he did you. Although he didn’t even have a passport, he processed
yours for you. Although he had never flown in a plane before, he raised a lot of
money to ensure that you could travel to Dubai to import goods and sell in your
home country. He took over the responsibility of catering for the kids and
though you now made more money than him, he still provides for you and the
kids.
But for some months now seeing the
life of affluence that your friends live and the luxury they enjoy, you think
that you’ve missed out a lot in life. They tell you that you deserve better and
that you’ve settled for less. Looking back over your life you can see what you
missed. You missed out on all the fun because you were married at eighteen and
became a mother at nineteen. Since then you’ve had four more kids and your life
was consumed by them although your husband helped you so much in caring for the
kids. You want to be young again. You want to live your life again. You keep
asking yourself ‘What if?’
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Then your friends introduced you to
this rich and charming young man. He showers you with gifts and treats you with
so much love. He makes you feel alive. He brings out that little girl in you. He
wants to travel the world with you. You know he has a wife and kids. You also
know that he has other women but you can’t let him go. Your friends urge you on
to take the risk. They tell you to think about your happiness and what you want.
So after twenty one years of marriage to a man who adores you and still swears
after all these years together that he can’t live without you, you pack out
the house that he built for you and the kids into a rented apartment given you
by your lover. Your husband begged and even cried. He asked the pastor, your
family and your friends to beg you to come back to him but you would hear none
of that.
You pack your bag and leave even
though the kids plead and cry for you not to go. To you, the grass seem so much
greener on the other side and you’re so much in love that nothing should destroy your
new world. Are you certain that life is brighter beyond the horizon? Will the love that you share with your lover stand the test of time? Will it survive the trails of this world? But let me tell you that this world will soon come to an end. would your
lover not be smitten with another woman and not leave you out
in the cold? Take time to reconsider your decision. Even your oldest child warned
you about your new friends. Do you mind listening?
I can understand that you’re bored
and want to explore and feel alive but you can get that with your husband. Rekindle the light of your love so that its flame can keep burning and make you happy. You
take divorce lightly but it is not. Don't leave the known love for the unknown affection that you seem to have found. Marriage is a life long commitment. Take a thought through and don't make a hasty decision. Rebuild your marriage. Remember when you took
your vows you said till death does you part, remember? Let God be the blocks you need to help you rebuild your marriage into the wonderful, romantic and respectable marriage that you envisage. What you need is not a
divorce but a counting of your blessings from God.
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