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Prepare yourself to be a wife or husband. Build up yourself to be the kind of person you would like to be married to. Gold attracts gold, light attracts light. Remember the person coming into your life is not the issue but you.
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Learn about who the opposite sex is. If you’re a man learn about women and vice versa. Read bible based or inspired literature on who men and women were created to be and are from God’s perspective. The late Dr. Myles Munroe has such books that I recommend you read.
Life is interesting. It is amazing how many times the tables quickly turn and how history shockingly always repeats itself! It must be true then that history indicates that men do not learn from history! Quite a shocker if you ask me. History is recorded so we can know of the past and improve our today and tomorrow, right?
Perhaps it is not that men do not
learn from history but that they perceive their experiences to be different and
peculiar to themselves. However, as Solomon states in Ecclesiastes there is
nothing new under the sun. If you haven’t heard of a situation or project
similar to yours, that doesn’t mean that you’re the first person going through
that. Read more and learn from the experiences of others. There is no need to
reinvent the wheel, when you can just enjoy the ride.
We live in an age where who we are and should be are dictated by external forces. The choice to be ourselves has, almost, been snatched out of the hands of those who accept the dictates of society. On TV, on radio, in magazines, newspapers, in the movies and documentaries and online, we’re bombarded with what we should eat, wear, where we should vacation, how we should talk and behave and even how we should live our very lives! We’re presented with one expert after the other. Some even contradicting themselves and leaving us more confused as to what we should really do.
We’re encouraged to copy the lifestyles of others. We are told to aspire to be like these people making the headlines. In such an environment when the norm is to be someone else rather than ourselves, it can be very difficult to find and be ourselves. However, if you’ll read through history you’ll recognize that no one ever stood out by being one of the crowd. It has become difficult for people not to accept not or attempt not to just follow the crowd.
There are five love languages that determine how we individually receive love. In other words, each person interprets love differently hence it is important we learn the love language of our spouses. The following are the five love languages taken from Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts:
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Words of Affirmation
Some people interpret love as words of affirmation. Therefore it is very important to them to be encouraged. Encouragement is when you empathize with your spouse and see life from his/her perspective. They also want to be appreciated or complimented. Tell them they look good and that you appreciate what they do for you. Use kind and humble words.