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I fell in love with my husband years ago. He was such a great guy and so attentive. He was a gentleman always doing things for me. He called me everyday and bought me gifts. Now after years of marriage and the kids, he doesn't spend much time with me anymore. He is hardly at home. I think he is cheating. I've confronted him but he says he is not besides the lady in his office he hangs out with is also married. He says they are only friends but if that is the case then he is having an emotional affair with her, right? Isn't that the same as cheating? The bible says when you look at woman with lust then you've committed adultery or fornication, so this is the same, right? I am so mad at him!

Thanks for bearing with me and reading this. I hear some married women go over again and again about what their husbands are doing against them. I feel their pain and frustrations. These women have a right to be angry and the right to criticize their husbands, punish them to talk some sense into them. However being critical and holding on to the hurt and making sure that they apologize do not guarantee that your husband will change. This will rather push him into the arms of another woman. 

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You're right but it's up to you to decide whether you want to be bitter and critical and stand on your rights which will inevitably lead to separation and divorce or you will put aside your pride and fight for the man you love and to keep your family whole. Your criticism and nagging plus turning the kids against him will not make him love you or stay committed to you. These will only push him away and cause him not to spend time with you and the kids.