To be a famous Hollywood actor or actress you must be handsome or beautiful as well as talented! Well not just in Hollywood but in the movie industry as a whole. By acting, you present the world with situations that are or could be. As you try to realistically portray the role that you are given, chances are that you’ll get very involved with your character for the duration of the filming. Then after the filming the people who watch you on screen become involved with your character. They get so involved that they forget that you’re not who you are depicting but somebody else. They buy into the world created on film so much so that they stop to live as themselves! Instead they focus on pursuing nonexistent lifestyles!
There are varying definitions that
have been given to feminism. There is no one agreed definition for the term
FEMINISM. The term feminisme was coined in late nineteenth century
France and spread into other languages. The fight to emancipate women and ensure
that they have equal opportunities just like males dates as far back as 195 BC
when Roman women demonstrated at a forum against the anti-female Opian
law.
There are a lot of women who although
fight for the rights of women would not want to be associated with feminism. I
do understand them because I think the word has been so abused and over used. As
it stands, currently, it is women versus men when it comes to fighting for the
rights of women. Men are represented as the oppressors and subjugators of women.
They appear to be the originators of the woes of women. In order to achieve
equality the female is sometimes forced to let go of her femininity. She pursues career rather than having a family. She
chooses to be a lesbian so that she does not have to submit in marriage to a
man.
I do know and recognise that the
female gender has been misunderstood and maltreated for centuries and
yes females do have issues that cannot be ignored or taken for granted.
However, I believe the approach to solving the concerns of women to ensure that
their humanity and essence are recognised by all is rather lacking. Feminism
does not offer lasting solutions to problems females all over the world go
through. It has rather brought a division between women. This is because what a
woman in the west needs is totally different from what another needs who is an
Asian, African or Hispanic. This divide makes it difficult for feminism to
formulate a holistic approach in resolving the problems facing women. Race and
their different social milieu make it impossible to grasp each other’s unique
needs as women.
In order to solve the female problem
we need to go back to God and discover who He has purposed for a woman to be and
also who He has destined for a man to be. Man means both male and female. Man is
not simply male but both sexes. It is in knowing our identities as male or female
and living according to it that we can solve all our issues. THE FEMALE’S
PROBLEM IS NOT THE MALE but rather sin. The desire of man to hurt and suppress
can only be taken care of when a man is born again. It is when he accepts Christ
Jesus as his Lord and personal saviour. It is in Christ that he can love the
female as he loves himself. It is in unconditional love and the rebirth of our
spirits that we can do away with our urge to hurt and discriminate against each
other. The solution is not in pointing out every horrible experience women go
through but in recognising that we cannot solve these on our own. If we could
have done that then there should be no need for feminists to exist in the 21st
century because all the issues of women should have been dealt with by now. We
should be living in a world where both sexes have equal opportunities and are
treated and regarded as equals. This, unfortunately, is not the case because
since the time of Mary Wollstonecraft, Germaine Necker de Stael and Simone de
Beauvoir’s till date the same issues are being discussed. The emancipation of
the female does not lie with feminism but in Christ Jesus.
So a friend is writing a comparative
analysis of Amma Darko’s Beyond the Horizon and Chimamanda Ngozi
Adichie’s Americanah for her Master of Philosophy in English thesis.
She happened to give me copies of both books and on reading them, I’m outraged,
surprised, and amused for a lack of a better word. I could use several
adjectives to define or describe the emotions that were going through me as I
read these novels. I’ve had to remind myself that these works are just fiction.
The realistic representation of women and racism is biting and unnerving.
What do you do if you fail to take advantage of an opportunity? A great one at that! How do you quickly recover and move on after you miss a great opportunity? Do you just wallow in self-pity and mentally blame yourself over and over again? The good news is you can quickly recover from failure and move on.
There is a saying that goes; “If one door closes, another will open.” This may sometimes sound so cliché and untrue but patience has a way of bringing things and people into the right perspective. When you miss or lose an opportunity you may choose to focus on the “What ifs” and “If only”. However, you need to quickly let go of the "What ifs" and "If only" and focus on other areas that you can explore. Don't allow this one choice to blind you from seeing the other opportunities around you. This may not be so easy especially if the opportunity you lost was something really great and special, right?
Well, who determines which opportunity is greater or more special than the other? You might be very surprised! Have you heard of “All that glitters is not gold?” Yeah, I admit that’s also a bit cliché. I agree but there are truths in these clichés if I may say. You would be surprised what you can find in some of the opportunities that are like gold to you. The worst is that you might have found out too late. Now don't get it twisted, I’m not saying all great opportunities are not what they seem. All that I’m saying is that be careful and don’t make your decisions based on emotions and the money. Sorry, I almost run totally off track today. Now back to my main point.
When you lose an opportunity don’t beat up yourself so much rather quickly put it behind you and move on. Strategize and look at the other opportunities that might be staring at you right in the face but you are not paying attention to. You might be surprised what you would find. There might be gold that you are missing because it’s still buried in soil or rock. All I’m saying is that there are opportunities that are golden but might not appear so from the onset.
See the best in every opportunity and don’t restrict yourself. Pick up new challenges and don’t stick to a routine because routines are boring and limiting. Try something new! Let me know how that goes! Remember if you think there are no opportunities around you, then create your own! Turn your passion into your career!
Love you loads! So until my next post, stay blessed and trust in God. Have faith!
Sometimes life gets really busy when
you have a lot of things to do and deadlines to meet. You can get so swamped by
everything going on and in making sure you fulfill your responsibilities that
you forget you. You forget what it is like to be you and be alone with
yourself.
Don’t ever get so caught up in
fulfilling your responsibilities that you forget to take time off to relax. We
take for granted that there are times when we need to rest in order to take
stock of our lives. Taking stock is really important. You need to reflect on
where you’ve come from and on where you’re going. You need to ask yourself; “Am
I doing what I set off to do?” “Am I fulfilling my purpose on earth or
otherwise?” It is important to have a me time alone where you pray and reflect.
You cannot know where you stand in terms of your achievements and mistakes
unless you assess yourself. After you’ve prayed, reflected and assessed your
situation, it’s time to act!
For those days when you feel so down and low. When you feel no one understands you or cares about what you’re dealing with. When you feel as though all everyone cares about is taking from you what they need. When you feel they don’t really care about you. In those days when you are feeling low, depressed, misunderstood or unloved; focus on the reality of the love of God. Focus on God's proof of love for you, Jesus.
Although, there are times that all may seem totally lost and your life may appear to be dreary with no light at the end of the tunnel, know for certain that there is someone who loves you. He loves you more than you love yourself and He amazingly loves you for you! He has seen it all and heard it all, yet He is never taken aback by anything you do! I am sometimes tempted to believe that He loves you more than Himself because He paid your ransom with His own life! He did this with only one thought in mind, love for you! He did this so He can always have you close to shower you with His love! No greater love has any man than to lay down his life for his friend. And this is true love, that when we were yet sinners Christ shed His blood for us! Behold what manner of love the father has given unto us!
What is life all about? I'm thinking you've asked yourself this question at least once or twice. You find yourself sometimes wondering about why you must continue to live and experience all that you have or are still experiencing! You might feel down sometimes and confused and just have more questions than answers!
Some years ago I found myself in such as a spot. Life for me seemed meaningless. I asked myself why I was here on earth. I looked at the lives of other people for clues to answer my question. I observed over time the cycle of people’s lives: They are born, they go to school and graduate from college, they find work, marry, start a family of their own, buy a car, then perhaps a house, save up money for a vacation or two then finally die!
This cycle seems pretty crazy to me because if that is all life is about then, there is no use for it! What joy is there in going through this cycle? There is nothing special about living this way, right? I think you do agree with this! Then something got my attention, although I couldn't prove it, I knew life was more than that! I realised there must be a purpose for my being born to planet earth and was determined to find out what I was here for!
I kissed the lips of dawn
Found it wet with dew
Wet with showers of hope
I kissed the lips of midday
Found it hot with passion
With a consuming fury
I kissed the lips of night found it calm
I kissed the lips of night
was embraced by the arms of the moon
showered with love
And clothed by the stars
I kissed the lips of night
Found rest.
I kissed the lips of midday
Found passion
I kissed the lips of dawn
Found hope.
As we were growing up, we were taught a lot of things. I remember how exciting it was to hear scientific theories about how the world came to be! I was totally amazed when I found out that we evolved from apes! As a child all these sounded incredible – the big bang theory, evolution, dinosaurs etc. They all sounded incredible and unbelievable! But my teacher insisted the world came to be as a result of an accident and humans evolved from apes.
There are times that you feel out of
place and unloved. This could be as result of what someone says or your own
assumptions but the question is, “Are our feelings always true?” Most times our
feelings are based on the false assumptions we make. Our brains love to take
charge, interpret and guess at things, however, would we take time to confront
situations and the people involved, we would most probably realise that things
are not what we assumed they are. Well, I know this is not applicable to all
situations and people but I want to encourage you not to base your decisions on
assumptions that arise out of misinterpretation of events, comments or body
language.
I feel excited within. I mean really,
really excited. Don’t know why I am so but I guess, it is just realizing how
blessed I am to have been created me! Can’t imagine being anyone else but me!
Yes, I admit I'm not perfect and sometimes I have suck at doing some things and
oh yes, I’ve failed many times! But that is just to be expected and normal. It
will be very scary to meet someone who has never failed before. That would be
certainly creepy! Unless of course that someone is God! A baby before learning
how to walk falls down a couple of times before learning how to stand firmly in
order not to lose his/her balance. This principle doesn't change much as we grow
older although in some cases we don’t have to go through failure before success.
Success cannot be measured in what you successfully didn’t do but what you’ve done successfully.
I stood in a queue for about twenty minutes waiting for a bus. I wanted to move from the current bus station to another one to get a car to my destination but didn’t. This was because I kept wondering what would happen if I left the queue I was on. I thought ‘what if a bus comes as soon as I leave?’ I said to myself then I would have wasted my time and missed the bus. I also wondered whether I would get a bus at the other bus station. I didn’t want to have to join another queue there. However, I finally decided to go to the other station but as I walked out I saw a bus drive in, I quickly went back to join the queue assuming the bus would go to my destination but this was not to be.
